Upbringing Krisha

Authoritarian

Parents who are authoritarian believe in structure. While not being abusive, they set high standards of behavior for their children and require obedience. Adherents to this parenting style get little input from their children when making decisions. This style may be good for children with behavioural or conduct disorders because they need structure and authority. However, if this is not the case, the child of authoritarian parents will often have low self-esteem and rely more often on the voice of authority.

Permissive

While not being neglectful or careless, permissive parents let their children make many decisions. They use this parenting style to encourage creativity and spontaneity in their children. These parents use reasoning rather than authority when setting limits. This is a good parenting style for withdrawn children, but not for rebellious or aggressive children. This method can sometimes result in immature behaviour and an inability to control impulses.

Authoritative

The authoritative style of parenting is often seen as the best. These parents are not particularly firm or permissive. They also will set high standards for their children but leave some of the decision-making up to each child. These parents reason with and listen to their children but don't hesitate to insist on certain behaviors and limits. This parenting style works well with middle-of-the-road children who are neither shy nor aggressive. It helps children develop a sense of independence and self-sufficiency.

What are we? May be Authoritative. Or may be Permissive.

I guess the art lies in getting the balance in different types at different times.

Isn't that so true.

Few examples to support this :

1. If you do not want your kids to swear, do not swear in front of them. How else you can explain to them that it is bad?
2. If you want to them to watch less TV, decreased your TV time. Otherwise, how would you explain it to them?
3. If you want to cultivate the habit of exercise in your kids - start doing it yourself.
4. If you do not want your kids to shout, stop shouting yourself.
5. If you do not want them to walk barefoot (or other way round), do it yourself.

Most of the kids have excellent observation power. In fact they learn by observing. First few years are very important. Sometimes you would say that - what does she know, she is a kid. She may not understand, but she has observed it and stored in her mind. Later she may connect this image with something else she sees. That may be good or bad. you can not control.