How much is enough?????

Well, now the days are near.....
u never know when the news may come..... all r just counting days...


where all r busy with last minute preparations, my mind is busy questioning "how will v groom our kid?"

one friend of ours' had suggested that there are two ways in which a kid can be groomed...
either its the parents who raise the kid or its otherwise where the kid plays the role of a parent and parents follow to what kids decide.... both ways have its own positives & negatives....
not any one way is perfect in its own way....


u cannot be too strict with the kid & behave as if he/she is a mature person to understand u well...
neither can u always agree to what the kid says or thinks...
u need to manipulate the kids behaviour as per the situation... so as once he's grown up he / she is a good person with soft courageous heart to face all the hardships of life....


now the big question is how will a parent know as to what is the correct way for there kid???
are they keeping a balance between both the ways..... or they r in the same boat like the gen-Y parents where kids make the parents go around their all demands as they hardly have time from there busy schedule and they substitute their love towards their kid with agreeing to what he/she says....


but than does it means that mothers who stay at home after the baby learn to be a better parent than a working mother who spends her maximum time in coperate world & by the time she reaches home she is too exhausted.....


this is a big query which still needs a good research....

while i was going through google on this matter i found some interesting works...


i came cross a point where a large number of parent associates their kid's good behaviour with rewards in form of money... quite strange... isn't it???
how could one always relate good behaviour with money... what standards they have set to quantify the behaviour in terms of its goodness????


Before we pay a child for anything children are normally expected to do, we need to think about our values, what we are trying to teach, and what decision we want our children to be making.
If the parents are deliberately grooming their kid to believe that he has to be a star, may be the pay-for-score is a good tactic.


But if they believe that money defines one’s self-worth, the payments may promote that attitude. If they are just trying to be good parent and let their son or daughter know they appreciate them, they may want to ask themselves questions about what they want their children to learn.


i was shocked to learn this way as i always believe in what my parents have taught me....

My dad still says: “Tell them (kids) what they did well first, then tell them how to do something better. Don’t criticize. Kids are supposed to be playing for fun.”.... Akb for u especially... :P


Lets see as to how good parent me & Akb will prove to be....
all fingers are crossed.....
hope we follow what are parents had followed in there times & made us such wonderful people.... :)